What is transition? The biggest transition for me was moving from a drug dependent life to a life free of substances. Part of the equation with this was taking responsibility, something I was not particularly keen on doing. One day someone said to me with responsibility comes freedom. I liked that idea. But still responsibility was hard work. Talking to people. I was not very good at this, essentially I was scared of people. I was extremely worried about being judged, saying the wrong thing or being viewed in a certain light for my words.
So responsibility became a value of mine.
As I have grown in my belief in myself over the years I have come to recognize that belief in myself came from the help I got from others. Affirmation, recognition for my achievements, a pure pat on the back for doing something positive. People saying I looked good. People giving me a hug, releasing oxytocin into my system.
So belief, I can do it (with some help) was fundamental to my recovery and through my transition into a new person. I keep mentioning the help as I have come to recognize they we can't do it alone. Even though I will still often try (pride and ego).
My second value is belonging. I need to belong, to be part of something. To have connections with others.
My third value is Growth. We can always grow and learn. We never reach an end destination, there is always more to learn. I have learnt to accept growth as part of my journey. Sometimes the growing pains are strong and the path seems impossible but I must continue.